Anyone else bring a flask to wedding or Bar Mitzvah??

[flahute]

I think the question needs to be answered in a case by case scenario. I can certainly understand the "can't be too far from you alcohol" interpretation. I can also understand the snobbery interpretation though I'd be less concerned about that. You just have to understand the individual situations and make a judgement call about how to proceed. If you decide to take the flask, be open about it and act normal and share, as if you brought something special with the intention to share. This implies that you don't need it badky. If you are being sneaky it just reinforces the first concern.

[smokinjoe]

I think a flask implies one of two things. both of which have already been alluded to:

1. Can't be too far from your liquor

2. Snobby about what you drink and "too good" for the event in question.

Drinking discretely from the flask in a bathroom strongly reinforces #1; drinking non-discretely from it at the event reinforces #2.

[Harry in WashDC]

In defense of flasks --

I don't carry it often but sometimes it's useful. For example, when fly fishing by myself and I don't want to carry beer cans around. When bass fishing and having another warm beer or warm Coke or warm water late in the day just won't do. When I know I'm going to see a bourbon Geek and I have something the Geek might like but I don't want to take a whole or partial bottle with me.

Mostly, it has WT101 in it. BUT it only holds about 5 ounces and is not always full so I can always empty it while watching baseball on TV the night before filling it with something else the next day.

Edited June 10, 2015 by Harry in WashDC
whole not hole

[Enoch]

I think honesty is the answer. When me step-daughter was getting married, her future mother-in-law, who doesn't imbibe, wanted a dry wedding/reception. .Margs response was they her family wouldn't come!

[clingman71]

I just took a flask of Gallenstein ER #21 to a wedding this past Saturday, no regrets.

[Tony Santana]

I have only rarely done this (sometimes when I know the selection will be bad - never been to a dry wedding, I live in Wisconsin for chrissakes), but don't see anything particularly wrong with it. Sneaking off to a bathroom stall strikes me as a little creepy. On the other hand I'm not pulling it out and waving it around for everyone to see. Just use some discretion. Whenever someone who knows me sees me do it they seem to get a kick out of it, and I offer a drink.

[AnotherCigarGuy]

I think a flask implies one of two things. both of which have already been alluded to:

1. Can't be too far from your liquor

2. Snobby about what you drink and "too good" for the event in question.

Drinking discretely from the flask in a bathroom strongly reinforces #1; drinking non-discretely from it at the event reinforces #2.

The older I get, the less I care about what other people think.

I certainly wouldn't want to be "rude", but perhaps we have different views of what that means?

[nd2005]

I recently attended a wedding of an extended family member. The reception was serving the official drink of the South. Sweet tea. No alcohol at all. So yes, I took a flask with me. Discretely pouring into a glass when needed. Since most everyone was drinking something brown in the glass I don't think much was made of it, or even noticed. The people in my circle don't judge me like that, and the others I won't lose much sleep over. To each their own.

Doubling down:

As a fellow southerner - if attending a dry wedding, I would assume that either the bride, the groom, or their family has religious concerns regarding alcohol consumption.

So in that setting, I would be even more reluctant to sneak in booze, as it might make them uncomfortable and it is their day, not mine.

[kjbeggs]

Doubling down:

As a fellow southerner - if attending a dry wedding, I would assume that either the bride, the groom, or their family has religious concerns regarding alcohol consumption.

So in that setting, I would be even more reluctant to sneak in booze, as it might make them uncomfortable and it is their day, not mine.

I'n which case, I'd hope I wasn't marrying into that family...:cool:

[Chris m]

I'm getting married in two and a half weeks. I'm definitely taking a flask with me.

[Richnimrod]

I'm getting married in two and a half weeks. I'm definitely taking a flask with me.

My Condolences, sir.... KIDDING!

I hope you and your Bride are as well-matched as me and mine . Have a great Wedding! Have a great Life. Drink some great BOURBONS!!!!!

[smokinjoe]

Doubling down:

As a fellow southerner - if attending a dry wedding, I would assume that either the bride, the groom, or their family has religious concerns regarding alcohol consumption.

So in that setting, I would be even more reluctant to sneak in booze, as it might make them uncomfortable and it is their day, not mine.

Or, it could mean that they were simply on a tight budget...

[altadoc]

Well, if one doesn't take a flask to these and other places, one can always cleanse one's mouth and refresh one's palate when one get home.

having just been to a very dry country wedding, i was kicking myself for not bringing a flask.

as a side note, shouldn't someone warn us if its gonna be a dry wedding?!?

[Flyfish]

I'm getting married in two and a half weeks. I'm definitely taking a flask with me.

As the groom, you should be very careful about that. I recall an occasion when there was an attractive person of the female persuasion who clearly had amorous intentions. The object of her intentions was, shall we say, incapacitated. She showed poor judgment in desiring him. He showed poor judgment by preferring inebriation. Moderation in one direction could have led to glorious excess in another direction.

[Scroni]

I bring a flask (most of the time) to any wedding I go to. Not because I have to have a drink though. It's better to have one and not need it than to need it and not have it, in my opinion. (I'm from Wisconsin, most of us like to have a good time, so it's common here). It is also common to have/see coolers with beer or whatever else people may bring.

[Bobbyrocko]

I received my flask in 2002 as a gift for being a groomsman. Flasks are a good time. But I also live in Wisconsin and weddings and drinking go hand in hand.

[bigtoys]

I've done it once or twice; it does seem "snobby" as stated.

luckily, I like Jack Daniels and that's often available

[mark fleetwood]

It depends on how much I dislike the people getting married. The greater the dislike, the higher the proof in the flask.

[Harry in WashDC]

Decided to pull up this old thread instead of starting a new one.  Anybody else notice an INCREASE (some might say the "reappearance") of flasks in movies and TV shows?  One got heavy use last night in "The Doctor Blake Mysteries", and I think one appeared briefly in the latest "Downton Abbey" episode - I think.  One appeared in at least two other TV dramas/movies I've watched in the last week, and they were not all period dramas (i.e., 1930s scene-and-time setting props).

EDIT: No, I don't have too much time on my hands; these were snow days so the choices were shovel, watch TV, read - all of which were accompanied with warming spirits.

Edited January 27, 2016 by Harry in WashDC
Explication

[jaxn slim]

I don't know that they ever went away.  I feel like I've seen a steady stream of flasks in movies and TV.

[Kalessin]

Welcome back, old thread!

I'm tired of low-quality flasks, I need to find something better soon.  Except for events where flasks tend to get confiscated.

[Golzee]

3 minutes ago, Kalessin said:

Welcome back, old thread!

I'm tired of low-quality flasks, I need to find something better soon.  Except for events where flasks tend to get confiscated.

My cheap flask just recently sprung a leak.  I bought another $10 copper plated stainless steel flask to replace it.  I was looking at a few of these, but, I talked myself out of one.  I may get oe someday though.

http://brizardandco.com/t/8oz---flasks

[b1gcountry]

Never a bar mitzvah...but a bat mitzvah? Yeah,  all the time! 

[MIDirtyBastard]

My flask from Filson has always served me well, generally fly fishing, but I have never hesitated bringing it to other events where an old friend is needed.

[mhatzung]

I usually carry of flask of an interesting bourbon to weddings. A couple of weddings I never even got it out of my pocket. I don't hide it, but I also don't make a show of it and I always share it with friends. I have a couple of friends that seem to count on me bring it so they can enjoy a couple of sips of a good bourbon.